How to be more Confident

As women, we are no stranger to people commenting on our bodies. Whether we are looking “thin,” “healthy,” or “unhealthy” you can bet someone out in the world thinks you should hear about it. With all the different conversations around bodies, women are so often left wondering how their bodies are perceived to others. 

The truth is, we can’t do anything about the way we are perceived. The sooner we start focusing on the things we love (and even the things we don’t) about ourselves, from our own thoughts, rather than someone’s else, the sooner we can dress in a way that gives us the confidence to totally own a room. It doesn’t matter if that room is a board room with your company’s executives, your little girl’s classroom when you’re chaperoning the end of year field trip, or when you’re just at Target re-upping on laundry soap and snacks. 

No matter what you are doing - you deserve to not only feel your absolute best, but to feel like yourself. Feeling like yourself is the most underrated accessory a woman can have. When you are being yourself and living your life most authentically to you, you are unstoppable. No one can tell a woman who knows herself anything! The bolder you become in your own choices, the more empowered you will be to take those extra risks, try something you have always wanted, stand up and set boundaries, or even just make more friends. 

The road to becoming the best version of yourself often feels complicated for women because strong women are often called bossy, bitchy, or difficult. When I hear a woman described like that, I know she is a bad ass automatically! 

It is up to us not just as woman but as individuals to decide for ourselves if we want to be part of that narrative. For me, I definitely don’t! We can’t just wait around as women and hope other women become the “difficult ones” for us. We have to do this together! 

To me, the easiest place to start living your most authentic version of yourself is to dress yourself in a way that is authentically you. It doesn’t matter what is going wrong in your life, no one can see that. All they can see is that you look like a million dollars and aren’t taking crap from anyone! 

You don’t have to participate in trends you don’t like, wear clothes that don’t fit, or shrink yourself to fit into certain environments. There’s no such thing as needing a “special occasion” to wear an outfit, “a place to go” for a certain pair of shoes, or a “trip to take” to wear your favorite accessories. 

The sooner you quit caring about what anyone has to think about your outfits, your earrings, your shoes, whatever it is, the sooner you will be able to express yourself and let people know you for who you are. 

A lie that is told to women far too often is that they are “too much.” There is no such thing as a woman being too much! You are exactly what you are, take up exactly the space you do, and you should be proud of that. Own that. 

Own that dress. Own that winged eyeliner. Own those pumps. 

Whatever you do, it should represent you and your personality. 

Inside and out.